What Was The Best Advice You Got During Puberty?

I’m asking because lately, I can’t stop talking about puberty with my friends.

Truthfully, it is my own attempt to not only learn, but to also break down typical stigmas we associate with them. I want both of my children to create open and honest conversations with their peers around the changes in their bodies and in their feelings. And while I can’t control that, I hope that being a participant as an adult, helps with that. 

I’ve discovered two things:

  1. Parents often miss the window of years or months prior to the onset of a tween’s period. Life happens, days and years are busy. And if you’re a person with a period as well things get looped. But after reading The Body Book:The Care & Keeping Of You, I realized that the process is much longer than we believe. It made me remember my tween years of hard feelings and hard days, that led up to my actual cycle. “Typically, a girl gets her period about 2 years after her breasts start to develop,” says Kids Health. And around that time there are other signs that their body is in process.
  2. There’s not enough conversation around the emotional side of things. A good handful of my friends are entering perimenopause. They’re in their early 40s and moving through new and strange symptoms that have gone undiscussed on the grand scale for years. For some it’s sleep. For a few, its exhaustion and unexplained body things. And for others, they’ve been thrusted in various hot flashes and mood swings. I’ve been mentally deeply in the pendulum of both cycle sides; listening and taking note, and realizing what’s been missing. More often than not, it’s conversations!

When researching to find more conversations about puberty emotionality (and as a result, perimenopause) I kept coming up short. Of course, I am relieved by underwear, like Thinx that helps relieve that actual onset. And care packages such as this first period kit. I also found Planned Parenthood’s website for tweens to be quite helpful in step by step direction (and amazing illustration).

With that said, I’m wondering, what is the best advice you got during puberty? Or, what was something amazing that your caregiver did for you during that time? 

P.S More Period talk right this way.

Photograph by MILTON ROGOVIN

6 thoughts on “What Was The Best Advice You Got During Puberty?

  • Reply Rachel October 12, 2021 at 4:30 pm

    My mom was pretty honest about getting periods. It’s not fun, she said, but she always made sure we had what we needed. She also told us the importance of paying attention to changes in our cycle, any unusual pains, any strange symptoms so we can talk with a doctor about them.

    • Reply latonya October 12, 2021 at 4:40 pm

      Hi Rachel,

      Thanks for sharing! Did she say anything about emotions? Besides the physical pain?


  • Reply Laurie October 12, 2021 at 11:30 pm

    My mom was really great with this stuff, so much so that I remember looking around at my sophomore mandatory life skills class in high school and thinking “wait…some people don’t know how sex works?” I don’t think she ever liked the idea of my sister or I not telling her something because we were scared, so the door was always open so to speak.

    I still wish she hadn’t told everyone and their mother when I got my period though 😩.

    • Reply latonya October 14, 2021 at 10:06 am

      Hi Laurie!

      I love this! and AHHHH my mom told everyone everything, will note for future on my end as well. hahah 😉

  • Reply Tanya October 23, 2021 at 6:30 pm

    Does being driven to the the doctor for the pill count as ‘advice’?
    I’m in search of good emotional advice for my 10 year old whose strong emotions are raw, who has a lot of questions while holding space for her to share & connect with me. Grateful for companies like Thinx, and Knix (here in Toronto) that can make periods a teeny bit better.

    • Reply latonya October 26, 2021 at 9:49 am

      Tanya, I feel like kind-a….. haha

      Same same. We have started what I call “GIRL WALK” its just us taking a walk alone and talking, like girlfriends.

      Sending so much love to you!

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