5 Highly Recomended Puberty Books

What did you read when you were going through puberty? I don’t really remember reading a puberty book as a tween or teen. I got my period early, and didn’t really develop anywhere else until late. The odd mix of timing left little steb-by-step for my mother, I think. But we did talk. We talked a lot, about everything. And talking, eye to eye, sitting me down, and pulling out a pad and having my older sister there too, made it all perfectly normal. These days, as my kids (and my friend’s kids) grow older, we all are talking about these changes. We’re sharing ideas, fears, breaking patriarchal patterns and encouraging one another along the way.

Years ago, after reading an article about sexual assualt and children, I taught a very young R about body boundaries. It was relatively easy. I think it gave her confidence to acknowledge something she inherently knew. Or maybe it was something I taught her by being an example? I’d like to think it was a mix of both. But even then, there was talking, explaining and short phrases. I often hear from one or both of my children, “My body is my body. Your body is your body.” Lately, “I need privacy!” has been yelled from the other side of the bathroom door. I roll my eyes. I smile. I agree. To know that your kids are confident and can articulate this desire for space and respect, is gratifying. It has this way of shifting this parent fear I carry with me, like some daily steady brick.

As we grow and as kids do as well, puberty and the various changes need to be just-as-easy-conversations. Or, one could only hope they are. So I asked on instagram, and many of you overwhelmingly rooted for these books listed below. It seems like the classics are still winning. And American Girl, is surprisingly powerful.

  1. The Care & Keeping Of You This book was recomended the most from the instagram community and friends! Everyone said it was surprisingly so good for them and their kids!
  2. What’s Happening To My Body. This feels a little more teen, but equally awesome.
  3. Celebrate Your Body is a celebratory book for girls and all the changes they will go through. It’s geared more towards an 8 year-old, which is wonderful. The colors and the joy that jumps from the pages makes it a winner in my book.
  4. It’s Perfectly Normal is a classic that is advertised for ages 10 aand up, but many disagree with it’s explicit details and imagery. I actually find it very helpful and clear, but yes, question the age recommendation as well.
  5. It’s Not The Stork is a really good first sex and body awareness book, when you are following-through with convos post reading. It’s great for kids 4 and up, that just keep asking about where the hell the baby is coming from. So if you’re newly pregnant, or just have curious kiddos, this is great for you.

Do you have any to recommend? I’d love to add them to my list!

P.S Can We Talk About Sex

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6 thoughts on “5 Highly Recomended Puberty Books

  • Reply Emily September 9, 2019 at 9:40 pm

    Yes, we’ve read the “It’s Perfectly Normal” with our 5th grader. It’s such good stuff and now
    Lives in his room so he can read when ever. We also have “Sex is a funny word” it’s great too and highly recommend.

    • Reply latonya September 9, 2019 at 9:54 pm

      Thank you, Emily for the suggestion!

      Will look it up and add it. Also love that your 5th grader just has it in his room!

  • Reply Chrissie September 10, 2019 at 8:37 am

    Thank you for this! When I was growing up my mom was not comfortable talking about puberty. (Surprising because she was a nurse!!) She bought me a book called Almost Twelve and left it on my bed (which I promptly threw away) and we never talked about it again. I have so many sad period-related memories from adolescence where I was too embarrassed or ashamed to talk to anybody about it. I have a ten year old daughter and it’s so important to me that she doesn’t feel the way that I did!! Puberty and body changes/functions is an ongoing and evolving conversation at our house. A book I liked when my kids were little is called Miles is the Boss of His Own Body. I’ll definitely be checking out the books you recommended!!

    • Reply latonya September 10, 2019 at 9:26 am

      Hi Chrissie,
      I’m so happy to see that your experience has help create a different one for your daughter. So much of my own mothering is about learning about what did or didn’t happen with me, and trying to approach it in a different way. I’m so excited about this next generation of girls who will have so much knowledge, power and confidence in themselves and in their bodies!

      x

  • Reply Cat September 10, 2019 at 4:54 pm

    Good timing for this as I’ve got a 12 year old and and a 10 year old and although we talk, I know they’d probably like something to read, too. While this dates me horribly, I remember getting a puberty book (ghostwritten I’m sure) by Tina Yothers from Family Ties. I think it was my cousin’s and my mom gave it to me. I remember reading through it several times. Ha! I don’t think it was very helpful, tbh. I think I’ll be getting my tweens a couple of these books.

  • Reply Meghan September 11, 2019 at 10:15 pm

    “The Baby Tree” was a book that was recommended on Cup of Jo as an introduction to where babies come from. I read this to my 4 year old sooooo many times while I was pregnant. He would request it and it gave true details about the egg and the seed, without being graphic or too explicit. It even talks about how grandpa is a tad ignorant bc he thinks babies come from storks 😂 It’s cute if you are planning on sharing some insight into pregnancy/babies with young kids!!

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