The kids and I just got back from a wonderful five days in Long Island. I worked a bit, we swam a lot, they played hard.
There’s one more week of summer left, and we have a few things planned. I’ll also post regularly on here (A new Window In coming soon!) But the first week of September I take a week off to be with kids, let them transition (myself too). While I’m away, I will spend some time thinking of what I’m posting here. I feel like the fall is a fresh start for all of us. So if you have any topics you’d like me to focus on, or voices you’d like to hear, I’m all ears! Just leave suggestions below.
Have a great weekend!
Love your blog. I just turned 41 a few days ago and have been thinking A LOT about what I’d like the next chapter of my life to look like. I’d love your thoughts about “curating” one’s life so that each and every day is LIVED to the fullest. Looking back on the last few years, I’m feeling like too much of it was just existing instead of living. I’m so aware of it now that I can’t pretend NOT to know better. I’m wondering if you and your readers have any thoughts on how to flourish and not just go through the motions. Thank you!
Hi Mallory, Happy Birthday!!
Thank you for reading, and for the thoughtful question. I know exactly what you mean. And even though I try to live and not just exist, there are days where everything is so much, I am just existing- in and out of the next thing. Until i really notice it. And i think staying in that state is so very common, so I’m excited you asked.
I think a good question to ask yourself is why were you in that sort of space for that time? what made you comfortable there? and then, what can excite you/ or help you feel alive? like it can be so small! a friend and I were discussing this piece where a black woman said a glass of natural wine was her sanctuary at night. Or healing / safe space. And I think it’s wonderful to find something that sort of (for lack of a better term) sparks joy! Micro things that are simple but aren’t about *just existing. Also, making plans, forcing myself to have a lunch with a friend or have a picnic in the park by myself (when i can very well eat at home, sort of shifts my everyday experience). of course there are larger parts, but i think you can start off small as well. And, with all of that said, i’m interested in asking readers this on a post! i think it’ll be nice to get some group answers.
thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I’ve been giving this soooo much thought lately – I felt like I was just overthinking and not doing anything about it. So on a whim, yesterday I woke up and had an email for discount Amtrak weekend tickets so I booked a trip to Philly for the long weekend (I live in CT) – so I’m excited to wander the city and doing something totally spontaneous. I cannot tell you how much this has invigorated me!!! Yesterday morning I had nothing planned for the weekend and by lunchtime I had plans to do some walking tours, food tours, visit museums and whatever else I feel like it, in a new city. So I just wanted to share. That one thing has sparked some excitement, I plan to continue this. And you’re right, it doesn’t have to be major things – a full life is comprised of all the many moments of each day, so let’s be more intentional about making those moments special, or seeing the special things in every moment. I could go on and on about this 🙂 Have a wonderful long weekend. I look forward to continuing the dialogue.