Now that I’m 30, I have much to say about everything. Just kidding. Rather, I’ve always had a thing or two to say. But nightgowns, has always been one of the odd things I don’t actually talk or write about. I often like to find out what people prefer on that front, and store that in my mind. Whenever a friend shares an instgram story of them in their silk pajamas, slip, or nightgown, I’m always a bit interested in why that is their preference, and what sort of ease and comfort does it give them.
Have you ever felt like that?
Growing up, my mother wore silk slips and nighties pretty casually around the house. In hindsight, the lesson was; I am the woman of the house. But it also was an unconscious lesson in not hiding one’s body from children, accepting the shape and ease of being comfortable, relaxed, confident and yes, sexy while in one’s home. The older I get, and the more comfortable I get with my home, my body, and my role in life (as it is ever-evolving), I realize that a silk slip or nightie around my home and children is what I want.
When wearing one, I’ve noticed the way my walk changes as my feet plant on the wood floor. I’ve noticed the way the kids hug me different, slipping off my body and how they burrow in my lap for deep comfort. I’ve noticed that at night, with a glass of wine or after a long bath, how I feel a deep sense of autonomy. I am comforted by being close to my skin in such a way.
Today is national self-care day, it is odd to relate self-care to a silk slip or nightgown. But as someone who believes in the quiet acts of care that is rooted in what we wear, I can’t think of an easier way than indulging in a few vintage ones.
Here are a few that I love:
- A 60s vanity fair PINK one for it’s length and deep v-neck.
- A cream one that can go from night to day, without a thought
- Orange and only $25
- A mini length slip from Reformation
Where do you stand on the nightgown front? I’d love to hear.
As a kid from Lisbon, raised by a grandma, we always wore white cotton nightgown and I did stray into boxers and a tee for my 20-30’s but now living in AZ, there is a special connection to home by wearing my cotton nightgowns…I love the Salter House ones, https://salter.house/rosebud-nighdress/ I do love hanging around the house on sweaty nights in a slippery slit while casually drinking wine and feeling like a glamorous old movie star.
I’m on my 30s and I wear the Asian nanas nightie. They love when I come in and they have a gown my size. I love the comfort and I have other lounging gowns too. I’m all for it. My mom wears shorts always has I do too when I feel like it. I’ve always worn these things. I will forever. Funny , I never sat and thought about this. I’m happy in whatever gown I’m gifted and oddly enough I’m gifted gowns a lot lol
Thank you for sharing. That’s amazing! And yes, i also feel like gifting gowns is such a sweet and thoughtful gift (from anyone!). I feel like I’m a bit behind and need to stock up on a few go-to favorites!
I love this, Monica. And so odd, I’ve never been to Salter House and love their nightgowns. Also, I know the artist who’s modeling a few of the pieces. Such a small world. I’m happy you linked them.
And I totally agree about you get to feel like you’re from a movie with a slippery slit and wine at night. It sort of transitions you to a new space and time. But also, am so happy with a lovely cotton one that feels familiar.
You may be 30 but you sound like an old soul. Love this blog post and just love your voice. I can’t wait hear what you have to say as you approach your 40s (where I sit currently.) I’m not entirely certain what I’m trying to say other than I enjoy your wisdom and your writing conveys an elegance and thoughtfulness beyond your years. Thank you!
hahaha thank you! As a kid I was actually called Mother Hen often, because I acted like a mother/older always. So, this does not surprise me. I’m excited to keep sharing in my 30s and hopefully grow a bit wiser and still have this space to call home.
Thank you so much for reading and for your sweet words and for being here. It really means a lot, as I grow and this space grows. And comments go a long way!
Yes! I was just looking for a nightgown the other day that was not too frumpy – surprisingly difficult. I love a romper too, but slips are so convenient (especially for nighttime trips to the bathroom, or if you have a lover…). Is that TMI? haha.
Thank you for the links! Going to check them out now 🙂
Laura, i 100% agree. I think comfort but also, easier to have sex. I 100% agree and not TMI to say!
thank you for sharing!! I also think vintage is the way to go, they do a lot of the middle ground work of sexy and comfort.
Have always loved vintage slips and nightgowns but often felt they were too fancy for me. Or have been self conscious to wonder what roommates, boyfriends, would think of me. Now I’m married with a new baby who still nurses as their primary source or nourishment . And it feels like time to treat myself to something I’ve always admired, however I don’t know where to look or how to shop for this new body I’m still getting to know. How do you shop vintage when you don’t know what size you are (numerically)?
I always say, use a measuring tape if you can. you can get a simple one from a store or online! That will help you 100%. most things on Etsy say the inches! Also, you can find varying price points, so. you aren’t investing too much in something you may not wear in another year.. The ones i linked all have plunging necklines, which makes them easy for nursing. Also, I’m a firm believer in feeling any type of love, treating yourself, and feel good in your new body with what you wear. So definitely go treat yourself!
Conrats on the baby!
I’ve always had such an uncomfortable relationship to nightgowns. In my mind I am Maggie from Cat On a Hot Tin Roof, rocking her vintage slip. Another part of me wants something less hugging. But I don’t want to look like a schlumpadink either!
I think I can finally make my peace with nightgowns with those Salter House ones. They are seriously calling me. So lovely!
I read your post and decided I needed new pj’s for myself. I don’t think I’ve actually had any clothes for bedtime, just old tshirts or shorts that have been worn too many times, or became too stained or with holes that could not be mended. Those old, worn clothes became pajamas. I’m also going on vacation in a few weeks, and decided now was the best time to purchase some new things. I can’t wait for them to arrive.