On Following The Gut-Feeling


I spent much of last week talking to a few friends about my personal lack of desire to discuss schooling. Comparative conversations; charter, progressive, public etc We are where we are, and the choice feels personal and layered. But the more I think about the conversations, the more I realize that I may be in pregnancy parenting book zone again!

Do you remember that time? It is that odd stage of pregnancy when everyone swears by a certain method or book. I found it really overwhelming then. I stayed away then. Once, we found a stack of pregnancy books and swore we’d read them and eventually, just let them compile with the stack of unreadables. I’m sure they were insightful and beautiful, but my personal comfort in parenting is in just gut-feeling and asking questions with real-life living role-models. Too much information feels like a bad thing. And the school conversations often feel the same.
Last week, we registered Oak for pre-k. It was a bit of a relief. It was also everything else that comes along with realizing its’ just that time of his life and our lives. I want to know I am making all the right decisions, but I just don’t. None of us do.  So I am just feeling. And right now, as River grows too, I realize our path feels right. Maybe, the gut-feeling is louder and more accurate than I previously thought.
Speaking of books, if I had to recommend, I’d highly recommend this one!

0 thoughts on “On Following The Gut-Feeling

  • Reply Anonymous February 13, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    Thank you for this! I feel the same way. My favorite parenting books have been about mindfulness in parenting/birth, and they're really just books on mindfulness. People have been asking about school since my daughter was born, and I'm always like – Uh, we haven't thought about it yet. They all are shocked, haha. I figure, we'll worry about it then? It's that wrong? Haha

  • Reply making mess February 14, 2018 at 8:55 am

    best parenting advice ever, go with your gut!

  • Reply LaTonya Yvette February 14, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    It's not wrong! That's the problem, even thinking it's wrong. I don't know, I support you!!

  • Reply LaTonya Yvette February 14, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    Thank you!


  • Reply Mangomo February 15, 2018 at 11:31 am

    Oh my god. I am the complete opposite and it has taken me such a long time to wean myself off of this addiction to information. I've spent the first few years of parenting completely inundating myself with others voices, ideas and totally losing any instinct of my own. I wish I had your wisdom along the way but this has been an important journey in it's own right. Completely agree with you – it's all a lovely, beautiful, imperfect crapshoot and in the end, hopefully the kids know they're loved and safe 🙂 Love your blog!

  • Reply LaTonya Yvette February 21, 2018 at 3:42 am

    Thank you! I'ms are all of your years of research has been so good for you and your family as well! I am so intrigued by what all of it will turn out to be when our generation of kids are in high school and college etc.


  • Reply SanDee February 27, 2018 at 6:35 pm

    I’m further along on the parenting spectrum than you are—my daughters are 19 and 17–and you are so right. I used to do my share of reading and obsessing about this or that parenting trend or issue. And I finally realized, it all comes down to my own heart and mind. When I listen to that voice, it all works out. And if it doesn’t,I tell myself at night: you get another fresh chance to be a mom tomorrow! Love your blog, your style, and your enthusiasm for life!

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