In November, Peter and I both felt like we were hardly seeing each other. He was on set for hours on end, and I was running around with the kids and working most days of the week. As we entered 2016, we made a few promises to each other and to ourselves, goals based on overall well-being. No more work-related resolutions; instead, simple, personal joy.
One of the many things we decided to do was to commit ourselves to one date a week. Sounds like such a big undertaking, right? Especially with kids. But we decided to redefine “date”; that way, dating as a married couple every week is easily done.
When we were boyfriend and girlfriend, Peter and I rarely had nights on the town, nights where we had dinner and boat rides and he picked me up in his car. Back then, our dates consisted of bike rides around Brooklyn. We took a lot of photos, blew bubbles, ran around in parks, watched movies on the concrete, had too much pizza and ice cream. We had fun. It was simple. Somehow now, as a married couple with kids, the notion of dating seems like some grand affair.
What we’ve committed to this year is that it doesn’t have to be. So far, our dates have been:
– Dessert on the couch staring at each other and sharing our feelings
– A movie with friends
– A dinner with friends
– Walking around after having coffee on a particularly warm afternoon
– Going to the book store and purchasing books together and eating soup
– And my personal favorite so far ( a surprise date on New Year’s Eve), swapping books over dessert and then heading into a late movie
All of these have been easy, not time consuming, and, surprisingly, incredibly romantic. Most importantly, all of them have forced us to sketch out more time for each other, doing things without pressure.
We have no plans to stop dating every week. For now, I think not having an end date just makes everything a little more special.
Would you try a date a week? I feel like this would be a great experience gift to give to the one you love.